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| Posted By : cussedness - 5/28/2007 7:26 PM | I have a new editor. however, she had one compliant that I was not certain about. So I thought I'd ask you guys out there.
My new editor says that the young males in my most recent novel think about sex too much. I was always under the impression that young guys, in this case between the ages of 16 and 21, spent a lot of time thinking about sex and chasing girls. I'm not presenting them in a negative light when I do it, but still...
Is that true or am I stereotyping them? Janrae Frank I have no skeletons in my closet, they are all hanging from the yardarm.
Once there were three brothers, Brandrahoon the vampire, Isranon called the Dawnhand, speaker to spirits, and Waejonan the Accursed, first of sa’necari. Isranon defied his brothers and was destroyed, his descendants forced into the darkness.
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| Posted By : crystalwizard - 5/28/2007 7:34 PM | cussedness said... I have a new editor. however, she had one compliant that I was not certain about. So I thought I'd ask you guys out there.
My new editor says that the young males in my most recent novel think about sex too much. I was always under the impression that young guys, in this case between the ages of 16 and 21, spent a lot of time thinking about sex and chasing girls. I'm not presenting them in a negative light when I do it, but still...
Is that true or am I stereotyping them?
I know guys that seem to see sex in everything and I know guys of the same age that don't have a clue and don't want one.
It really depends as far as my experience goes, on the individual personality. It's not you that's sterotyping them, it's TV that's sterotyped them already. |

| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 5/28/2007 11:02 PM | Well, in all the environments I've been a member of - high school, college, warehouse, military and law enforcement - sex is the number one theme. Seeing as I've been male through all of those and 16-21 through four of them, it seems pretty reasonable to me to make your claim. Personally, as sex is used more and more to buy and sell and trade and impress and impose and undermine and intimidate and demand and even impersonate, I would think it will only become more consistent and begin at an earlier age. ~~~~~~~~~~ Jason M. Waltz Fantasy Editor Staffs & Starships Magazine ~~~~~~~~~~ Ever waltz with the Devil? Or devil with a Waltz? Visit von Darkmoor's thoughts to find out (and read a review or two). |


| Posted By : cussedness - 5/29/2007 1:33 AM | Thanks guys. I appreciate the feedback. Janrae Frank I have no skeletons in my closet, they are all hanging from the yardarm.
Once there were three brothers, Brandrahoon the vampire, Isranon called the Dawnhand, speaker to spirits, and Waejonan the Accursed, first of sa’necari. Isranon defied his brothers and was destroyed, his descendants forced into the darkness.
Blood Rites www.fictionwise.com/ebooks/eBook29989.htm website www.janraefrank.com Darkzone www.janraefrank.com/Vanilla.1.0.1/ |

| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 5/29/2007 8:32 AM | darkbow said... I'll have to go along with Jason on this one, especially in college. Don't sound so reluctant Ty!  ~~~~~~~~~~ Jason M. Waltz Fantasy Editor Staffs & Starships Magazine ~~~~~~~~~~ Ever waltz with the Devil? Or devil with a Waltz? Visit von Darkmoor's thoughts to find out (and read a review or two). |

| Posted By : darkbow - 5/29/2007 11:33 AM | Eh, didn't mean it to sound that way! 
But, rethinking this topic a little, I also think it's somewhat a matter of culture and availability. Yes, men (especially young men) think a lot about sex in any society, but I'm thinking the amount of time they spend thinking about sex and how they think about it is going to be affected by what they see and hear and experience around them. A relatively sterile environment, such as the common public perception of Victorian England, is not likely to be as titillating as say the modern U.S., or more so, Amsterdam. Further, I think it's also somewhat a matter of what is or is not acceptable within a culture; the U.S. tends to be pretty uptight about sex in some circles because of a strong Puritan background, but that's not the case in other cultures, or in some historical cultures.
And I don't mean to make any kind of judgment whatsover about any culture, just saying things as I see them as a permanent student of history. www.tyjohnston.blogspot.com http://swordofbayne.blogspot.com/ www.thereddoorconcierge.blogspot.com www.thereddoorconcierge.com |

| Posted By : xiaotien - 5/29/2007 12:09 PM | and also something else to consider, cussedness, perhaps it isn't that what you wrote doesn't reflect reality. maybe your editor feels it takes away from your story a little?
we are not writng truth (even tho there is the blah blah about write truth then you have great writing) we are writing a version of truth for reading.
it's just like you wouldn't write dialog that is "true" to everyday speech, perhaps a horny dude thinking about sex all the time is too...mundane?
just a thought.
and hell, i thought about sex all the time between puberty through college. so there you go.
oh, and i'm not a boy. really.
cindy p.
a little sweet, a little sour.
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| Posted By : Jeff Stehman - 5/29/2007 2:02 PM | xiaotien said... and hell, i thought about sex all the time between puberty through college. so there you go.

A friend of mine worked as a camp counselor for a summer nursing camp for high schoolers. All of his campers were female, and he eavesdropped on a few of their conversations during breaks. He said, "Do you know what high school girls spend most of their time talking about? Sex. They're as bad as we were!"
But Cindy has a good point. Writing should feel real, not be real. The two are often not the same. --Jeff Stehman |

| Posted By : UnclePete - 5/29/2007 2:16 PM |
cindy said... just a thought.
and hell, i thought about sex all the time between puberty through college. so there you go.
oh, and i'm not a boy. really. I think humans think about sex quite a bit, boys and girls, in those years -- it's discovery and exploration and identity finding and etc. and I can't imagine writing about those years without at least mentioning sex -- it would seem pretty odd to me.
It can become tiresome to read if it's done heavy-handedly though...
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| Posted By : MichaelEhart - 5/29/2007 3:36 PM | I'll be 52 in a few months. I am looking forward to thinking less about sex. Any day now. Really. "The Scarlet Colored Beast" The Sword Review, September 2007
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| Posted By : Raph - 5/29/2007 4:48 PM | Don't think it'll happen, Mike. My grandparents, who are both in their late 80's, came over for a visit one time. When they went to leave, my wife told them to "be careful". My grandpa responded "We don't need to be careful--she can't get pregnant anymore!"
Janrae, I also think Cindy has a good point. It might work better for the story to tone it down a bit. Maybe you could use it as a character trait for one specific character, make him stand out. Having the other characters with different views would also help create more dramatic tension, might open some avenues for conflict between the characters. Just a thought. Mike O. |

| Posted By : cussedness - 5/29/2007 5:20 PM | My editor went into a lot more detail about it yesterday evening, and it came down to making the two cultures involved more defined in their attitudes about sex and less similar, using a different set of slang for each of them. She also had me sharpen the my presentation of the sexual customs. I toned down the language for one culture. Now I've turned in the revisions and hope that I covered it all. Janrae Frank I have no skeletons in my closet, they are all hanging from the yardarm.
Once there were three brothers, Brandrahoon the vampire, Isranon called the Dawnhand, speaker to spirits, and Waejonan the Accursed, first of sa’necari. Isranon defied his brothers and was destroyed, his descendants forced into the darkness.
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| Posted By : Anthony G Williams - 5/30/2007 5:08 AM |
darkbow said...
But, rethinking this topic a little, I also think it's somewhat a matter of culture and availability. Yes, men (especially young men) think a lot about sex in any society, but I'm thinking the amount of time they spend thinking about sex and how they think about it is going to be affected by what they see and hear and experience around them. A relatively sterile environment, such as the common public perception of Victorian England, is not likely to be as titillating as say the modern U.S., or more so, Amsterdam. Further, I think it's also somewhat a matter of what is or is not acceptable within a culture; the U.S. tends to be pretty uptight about sex in some circles because of a strong Puritan background, but that's not the case in other cultures, or in some historical cultures.
I'm not so sure about that. I recently read an article about social attitudes among young people in Iran, which is officially very repressive towards overt sexuality, and they were, to coin a phrase, gagging for it - anonymous blogs by girls are apparently very raunchy. Cultures which take a more open and casual attitude towards nudity and sex seem much more relaxed about the whole business; repression seems to make it worse.
You can't blame the youngsters - it's their hormones which are in control.
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| Posted By : nathan - 5/30/2007 11:58 AM |
cussedness said...
My new editor says that the young males in my most recent novel think about sex too much.
Is that true or am I stereotyping them?
She's never heard the study about sex thoughts for men being at least several times every couple of minutes? If anything your portrayal probablly doesn't scratch the surface of how obsessed a hormone bath can make one.
First you obsess about ever getting it. Then you obsess about how soon you're going to get it again. It's like a quantum loop that plays until 30 then slows down to several times an hour instead of every minute.
However...in the editors defense. Perhaps the problem isn't that you're unrealistic but rather that it doesn't work as a novel construction device. Writing can be realistic but it has to follow the rules of writing more than the rules of the world--if that made sense.
Probablly you wrote about them thinking of sex not enough to be true-to-life but too much within the narrative frame work? VIEW IMAGE"Writing the wet dreams of teenage boys" - Lindsey Llyod, Tangent Reviews
Tarantino himself has been forward and unapologetic about his influences. In a 1994 interview with Empire magazine, he said, "I steal from every single movie ever made. If people don't like that, then tough tills, don't go and see it, all right? I steal from everything. Great artists steal, they don't do homages." |

| Posted By : nathan - 5/30/2007 12:01 PM | Edit: I didn't read down quite far enough before answering (because I was laughing so hard) but starting with Cindy you guys pretty much covered the ground I was pointing out so apologies for redundancy. VIEW IMAGE "Writing the wet dreams of teenage boys" - Lindsey Llyod, Tangent Reviews
Tarantino himself has been forward and unapologetic about his influences. In a 1994 interview with Empire magazine, he said, "I steal from every single movie ever made. If people don't like that, then tough tills, don't go and see it, all right? I steal from everything. Great artists steal, they don't do homages." |

| Posted By : erazmus - 5/30/2007 2:03 PM | Think abou sex? 16-20? Constantly-- but it was more like a background humm. Talk about sex? Not so much. We just let it humm along unspoken most of the time. I mean, where I was at at the time, there were plenty of things to discuss and only so much time, and how much discussion can you dedicate to what you don't have, aren't likely to get soon and don't know many in any other condition? (That was 16-17)
Somehow, despite the background humm, most of my friends and I managed to _talk_ a lot more about school (and yes, schoolwork), theatre, D&D, movies, music, books we read, comicbooks we followed (and the attendant writers/artists et al), our jobs, our parents (universally clueless, of course) where we wanted to go to college, what ever was in the news and finally, occasionally, sex.
Once we managed to obtain sex, we spent much, much more time talking _to_ girls, managed to still talk about most of the above and, if possible, actually talked about sex less. But we did manage to add in a lot of discussion about girls and how unreasonable they were. (That was 17-18).
I married at eighteen (the first time) and once I did sex was not on the table for talking, it was my personable buisness thank you very much. I was nearly obsessed with the girl I'd married and didn't see many people outside of work (military). Others might have been buzzing all the time abut it, but I didn't notice-- I was too busy with everything else mentioned above.
When we could be bothered to get out of bed, that is.
I think the overt theme of sex is overplayed all to often. Yes, young men are hormone driven animals. But they aren't mindless hormone driven animals. They may thnk of sex constantly but its an odd timeshare with everything else. Think about sex-.2 seconds-think about what you are doing.6 sec- think about other subject.2 sec-think about sex some more .2 sec . . .like that. Most of us seemed to master this in short order-- or else we'd never gotten out of high school!
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| Posted By : Mike Lynch - 5/30/2007 3:05 PM | I think the "Response" vs. "View" for this topic says it all. As of this post, it is 16 responses, and 157 views. People are obviously intrigued by the title and know what's going on, myself included. They are just a bit shy about sharing their feelings.
Mike |

| Posted By : Daniel Arenson - 5/30/2007 6:46 PM | Depends on the guy. Some think about nothing but. Others rarely think about it. Same with girls, by the way.
Daniel "Discover a world at the edge of imagination..." Firefly Island, a fantasy novel www.DanielArenson.com |

| Posted By : nathan - 5/31/2007 12:04 AM | I need to rethink [boobs] my statement. It is a vicious [girls smell nice] sterotype to perpetrate that men [she's all bendy and stuff!] are animal-slaves to their [boobs] hormones. Man has brought us poetry [blondes] and mathematics [brunettes] and justice [I just want to touch Angelina's hair] and a host of things that have enriched our culture [boobs] and while there will always be those [Paris is naughty!] knuckle draggers who besmirch the name of the [want to touch-touch-touch] rest of us [boobs] sensative new-age guys [cover of Maximum] people should rest assured that we rise [I rise for Bay Watch] above such barbaric nonsense! [Jennifer or Rachael? What if Jennifer kissed Rachel? Sure I'd go with Betty but I'd be thinking of Wilma] And that's all I have to say about that [boobs].
[boobs] VIEW IMAGE "Writing the wet dreams of teenage boys" - Lindsey Llyod, Tangent Reviews
Tarantino himself has been forward and unapologetic about his influences. In a 1994 interview with Empire magazine, he said, "I steal from every single movie ever made. If people don't like that, then tough tills, don't go and see it, all right? I steal from everything. Great artists steal, they don't do homages." |


| Posted By : Jeff Stehman - 5/31/2007 1:37 AM | Nathan, I'm reminded of the Buffy episode in which she could read minds. Specifically, I'm reminded of Xander's thoughts. --Jeff Stehman |


| Posted By : Keralen - 5/31/2007 9:31 AM |
What she said.
Nathan, that is classic! Publish it |



| Posted By : BethS - 5/31/2007 11:08 AM |
cussedness said...I have a new editor. however, she had one compliant that I was not certain about. So I thought I'd ask you guys out there. My new editor says that the young males in my most recent novel think about sex too much. I was always under the impression that young guys, in this case between the ages of 16 and 21, spent a lot of time thinking about sex and chasing girls. I'm not presenting them in a negative light when I do it, but still... Is that true or am I stereotyping them?
This is just a guess, but maybe her complaint is not so much that your characters aren't accurately portrayed, but that their "obsession" with sex distracts from the actual story. I.e., in fiction, a little goes a long way and maybe you overdid the realism.
Edited to add: I should've read the thread first before responding. Sorry for the redunancy.
~Beth |

| Posted By : BethS - 5/31/2007 11:12 AM |
nathan said...I need to rethink [boobs] my statement. It is a vicious [girls smell nice] sterotype to perpetrate that men [she's all bendy and stuff!] are animal-slaves to their [boobs] hormones. Man has brought us poetry [blondes] and mathematics [brunettes] and justice [I just want to touch Angelina's hair] and a host of things that have enriched our culture [boobs] and while there will always be those [Paris is naughty!] knuckle draggers who besmirch the name of the [want to touch-touch-touch] rest of us [boobs] sensative new-age guys [cover of Maximum] people should rest assured that we rise [I rise for Bay Watch] above such barbaric nonsense! [Jennifer or Rachael? What if Jennifer kissed Rachel? Sure I'd go with Betty but I'd be thinking of Wilma] And that's all I have to say about that [boobs].
~Beth |

| Posted By : crystalwizard - 5/31/2007 12:03 PM | darkbow said... If only nathan could write his next Bolan book that way ...
He could, you know. It wouldn't see print, but he COULD write it that way ;) |

| Posted By : Frank - 5/31/2007 12:16 PM | | And why isn't there more sex in high fantasy? |

| Posted By : nathan - 5/31/2007 12:44 PM |
Jeff Stehman said... Nathan, I'm reminded of the Buffy episode in which she could read minds. Specifically, I'm reminded of Xander's thoughts. Well...TS Elliot said: Bad Poets Borrow, Great Poets steal but as soon as you wrote that I remembered that episode and snorted some Red Bull up my nose. Buffy was a such a classic show.
You know I couldn't write a Bolan like that (he's all serious like Bat Man) but I could write a couple of characters in a Stony_Man with that style. Of course having that thought-interruption-pattern occuring during the disarmement of a warhead might be pushing the envelope...
Thank you everyone for the validation  Stuck at home with my wife on bed rest before the baby comes has left me cutting up with only the boys for an audience. Now they think I'm hilarious but the bar is set kind of low for a 6 & 4 year old. VIEW IMAGE"Writing the wet dreams of teenage boys" - Lindsey Llyod, Tangent Reviews
Tarantino himself has been forward and unapologetic about his influences. In a 1994 interview with Empire magazine, he said, "I steal from every single movie ever made. If people don't like that, then tough tills, don't go and see it, all right? I steal from everything. Great artists steal, they don't do homages." |

| Posted By : Daniel - 5/31/2007 12:46 PM | Very funny post, Nathan!
I think Beth has a good point about the "distraction of realism" given the sex-issue in ficiton. Remember everything should be idealized in fiction (yes, even tragedy and despair) and the everyday sexual prepoccupations of humans whilst very authentic are probably of little use in escapsim fantasy. You've got to raise it to another level to help people (guys and girls) escape their hum-drum lives of which (nagging) sexual obsessions are usually a part!!!  Daniel |

| Posted By : Daniel - 5/31/2007 12:50 PM | And why isn't there more sex in high fantasy?
***
All SF is sexual, just often phrased in symbolism and archetypes that *seem* apart from straight eroticism. Under it all: sex and death, that's the main offerings on our cosmic menu here in this vicinity and as far out from it as we've managed to send probes or radio waves.
What? Don't you find cosmic background radiation sexy? Black holes, superstrings, neutron stars....
And of course, in fantasy, dragons, succubi, demons, swords, and magic wands.... Herr Freud?
Daniel |


| Posted By : Jeff Stehman - 5/31/2007 1:48 PM | Frank said... And why isn't there more sex in high fantasy? Read the teaser at the beginning of Bored of the Rings (the text of which, if I recall correctly, does not actually appear within the novel). Now there's a lady who knows how to get what she wants. --Jeff Stehman |

| Posted By : BethS - 5/31/2007 2:36 PM |
Frank said... And why isn't there more sex in high fantasy? I'll take a wild stab at answering. I think (and I could be wrong about this) that most high fantasy is written by men and while men think about sex a lot, they apparently aren't as comfortable writing about it as women are. If you doubt that, just crack open a typical romance genre novel. Women are, in their own way, just as sex-obsessed as men.
Now why many male writers tend to shy away from writing about sex, I couldn't say. I have a friend who offered the theory that it's because when they start thinking about sex (a necessary prerequisite for writing about it), their brains short circuit. Or to put it another way, there's an old saying: When the penis stands up, the brain lies down.
And everyone knows men aren't good at multi-tasking. {g,d, & r}
~Beth |

| Posted By : crystalwizard - 5/31/2007 2:58 PM | Frank said... And why isn't there more sex in high fantasy?
Elves don't need it and Dwarves are too busy mining. Let's not talk about what ogres and hillgiants do. |

| Posted By : xiaotien - 5/31/2007 3:15 PM |
nathan said...I need to rethink [boobs] my statement. It is a vicious [girls smell nice] sterotype to perpetrate that men [she's all bendy and stuff!] are animal-slaves to their [boobs] hormones. Man has brought us poetry [blondes] and mathematics [brunettes] and justice [I just want to touch Angelina's hair] and a host of things that have enriched our culture [boobs] and while there will always be those [Paris is naughty!] knuckle draggers who besmirch the name of the [want to touch-touch-touch] rest of us [boobs] sensative new-age guys [cover of Maximum] people should rest assured that we rise [I rise for Bay Watch] above such barbaric nonsense! [Jennifer or Rachael? What if Jennifer kissed Rachel? Sure I'd go with Betty but I'd be thinking of Wilma] And that's all I have to say about that [boobs]. [boobs]
nathan, i found this post highly offensive.
i mean really!!!
why was there no mention of legs or ass? i don't have boobies.
men!!!! i swear.
cindy p.
a little sweet, a little sour.
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| Posted By : Rob Santa - 5/31/2007 3:16 PM | Please stop. I'm feeling faint.
Rob Santa
Hopelessly Addicted Writer of Speculative Fiction
and CEO of Ricasso Press |

| Posted By : xiaotien - 5/31/2007 3:18 PM |
BethS said...
Frank said... And why isn't there more sex in high fantasy?
And everyone knows men aren't good at multi-tasking. {g,d, & r}
~Beth
does this mean that as a woman writer, you DO have sex scenes in your novel, beth?
cindy p.
a little sweet, a little sour.
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| Posted By : nathan - 5/31/2007 3:41 PM |
xiaotien said...
nathan, i found this post highly offensive. i mean really!!! why was there no mention of legs or ass? i don't have boobies. men!!!! i swear.
While participating in a panel discussion at Yale University, he was confronted by an angry woman who accused him of being "nothing but a breast man."
His immediate reply:
"That's only the half of it."
I fear to go too much further down this line VIEW IMAGE"Writing the wet dreams of teenage boys" - Lindsey Llyod, Tangent Reviews
Tarantino himself has been forward and unapologetic about his influences. In a 1994 interview with Empire magazine, he said, "I steal from every single movie ever made. If people don't like that, then tough tills, don't go and see it, all right? I steal from everything. Great artists steal, they don't do homages." |

| Posted By : xiaotien - 5/31/2007 4:04 PM |
nathan said...
I fear to go too much further down this line
nice save, nathan. 8)
and FASTER PUSSYCAT KILL KILL!!! cindy p.
a little sweet, a little sour.
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| Posted By : Scott M. Sandridge - 5/31/2007 4:11 PM |
nathan said...I need to rethink [boobs] my statement. It is a vicious [girls smell nice] sterotype to perpetrate that men [she's all bendy and stuff!] are animal-slaves to their [boobs] hormones. Man has brought us poetry [blondes] and mathematics [brunettes] and justice [I just want to touch Angelina's hair] and a host of things that have enriched our culture [boobs] and while there will always be those [Paris is naughty!] knuckle draggers who besmirch the name of the [want to touch-touch-touch] rest of us [boobs] sensative new-age guys [cover of Maximum] people should rest assured that we rise [I rise for Bay Watch] above such barbaric nonsense! [Jennifer or Rachael? What if Jennifer kissed Rachel? Sure I'd go with Betty but I'd be thinking of Wilma] And that's all I have to say about that [boobs]. [boobs]
Now Nathan [boobs]. Stop [ooh! Nice legs] thinking such naughty [oh my, Paris so naughty] thoughts about Paris [mmm, pie, yummy] and Angelina [ohthethingsshecandowithher]. I't not appropriate [oh, baby! what an]! Distant Passages: Volume 1
Which lich fell in the ditch? |

| Posted By : erazmus - 5/31/2007 4:21 PM | I dunno, I do my best writing with my brain lying down. Sometimes anyway. And there is plenty of sex in High Fantasy, if you read the right fantasy (try C.S. Friedman). But men are so often accused of thinking about nothing else, they learn to guard against it.
Experience tells me nothing I do with sex in my writing will be right. Someone will be offended, be convinced they know _my_ sexual proclivities, which will then be judged, in public, to be wanting in some manner. I have enough grief in my life, thank you. Its happened to other writers (and not just John Norman). Heinlien gets it all the time, with everything he wrote judged not by the standards of his times but by ours. The constant complaint of the Heinlien superwoman is enough to set my teeth on edge. He's derided for the unrealistic and unnatural portrayal of females, yet he was the first writer in genre I'm aware of to even give females credit for competence. He came of age in an era of women portrayed as swooning adornments and ended up writing books like Friday, but some how doesn't get credit for changing (for the better) the way women are portrayed in genre. Sad.
Its not just him. Every male writer I've ever read or met who has a noticable amount of sex in his work gets called on it. And the callers are seldom happy about it, no matter how he dealt with it. Women do not get held to this standard-- when they write about child rape, incest, sadomasochism, auto-eroticism, prostitution, beastiality and bukaki they are judged to be being erotic. Men are judged to be promoting whatever acts are portrayed. At least they certainly draw more flack for it. So many male writers either avoid it or "tone it down", IMO.
Mike Michael D. Turner "Psyched Up" in _Turn the other Chick_-ed. E. Friesner-Baen books www.baen.com "Dutchman Rescue"in Continuum SF #6 www.continuumsciencefiction.com/orders.htm
"An Incident at Black Tongue Tavern" in _Bash Down the Door and Slice Open the Badguy_ from Fantasist Enterprises: www.fantasistent.com/books/anthologies/BASH.php |

| Posted By : Anthony G Williams - 5/31/2007 4:35 PM |
Daniel said... And why isn't there more sex in high fantasy?
If that's a complaint, I suggest that you read Jacqueline Carey's Kushiel trilogy
I do not include explicit sex in my novels. It isn't necessary to the stories (at least, to the stories I've written so far) and in fact would detract from them IMO.
I hope I haven't just lost too many potential readers
Tony Williams Scales (2007) The Foresight War (2004) http://www.quarry.nildram.co.uk
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| Posted By : nathan - 5/31/2007 5:07 PM | Well while I don't know entirely about Mike's premise (though his examples are pretty compelling) I will go at least this far with it: If a man had written the Jacqueline Carey's Kushiel trilogy [maybe his name would have been Jack] I don't think it it would have gotten published. Maybe I'm wrong but ecspecially the one where she sends the S&M hooker Empath to Persia [Kushiel's Dart?].
I mean that one was over the top with graphic sex torture. I'd go so far as to say it put any of the 3 or 4 Gor novels I've read to shame. I guess it's okay 'cause its literature and the fem-protag loves the abuse.
Not I'm not morally opposed to it, just echoing a shadow of Mike's sentiment that a man who wrote that might not be allowed around children except in Vermont or Boulder Colordado.
But maybe I'm paranoid.
VIEW IMAGE"Writing the wet dreams of teenage boys" - Lindsey Llyod, Tangent Reviews
Tarantino himself has been forward and unapologetic about his influences. In a 1994 interview with Empire magazine, he said, "I steal from every single movie ever made. If people don't like that, then tough tills, don't go and see it, all right? I steal from everything. Great artists steal, they don't do homages." |

| Posted By : erazmus - 5/31/2007 5:41 PM | Let me clairify; I'm not saying they wouldn't get published, I'm saying they get more flack from the public over it.
An established writer can include a horrific amount of sex in a book, especially if the last book sold well. But the men writers who do so seem to get a disproportionate amoun of grief from it. An example-- John Ringo wrote an S&M man's adventure novel series (Ghost, Kildare, others I don't recall the titles of) and it was published (as SF) by Baen because Jim Baen had made damn good money from everything Jonny'd put out and he didn't want him peddaling the Ms elsewhere. The books sell very, very well. Sex is 40% to 70% of the plotline, the rest is anti-terrorist mayhem. Lots of eastern european underage sex slaves in the series. John gets creamed over the sex, just reviled, on web boards and at conventions etc.
Its not innacurate-- niether the BDSM nor the state of the sex trade in eastern europe, it is frighteningly accurate in some places (I know, I helped collate some of the research). John tells his story in a certain way but the details _are not his fault!_ Yet to hear some people talk about him, you'd think he invented the sex slave trade, personally. Now John's skin is very thick and dense, like iron, but even he tires of the endless flack over teenage hookers in Budapest. He was in Budapest, he saw the hookers, he worked them into his story (with a heavy hand, I admit). Sometimes you'd think he got caught smuggling Romainian childeren into a Thai brothel.
Yet an author like C.S. Friedman can put out a fantasy like _Feast of Souls_, with its bleak perspective of all men being child rapist and all women forced into whoring (or very nearly) and it passes without comment. It is refeered to as "a very dark fantasy" and I'll bet she doesn't get half the reaction Jonny does. The casual and inevitable brutality inherit in her stories is appalling, though they are well told and engaging, but the outcry is muted. I posit that the author's gender has at least something to do with that.
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| Posted By : Jeff Stehman - 5/31/2007 6:24 PM | erazmus said... I'm not saying they wouldn't get published, I'm saying they get more flack from the public over it. That wouldn't surprise me. There's another angle on it, however. A friend of mine knows a woman who writes straight erotica. When she publishes under her own name, her mailbox fills up with the worst kind of hate mail--from men. When she publishes under a male pseudonym, her mailbox fills up with praise--from men. That didn't surprise me either. --Jeff Stehman |


| Posted By : crystalwizard - 5/31/2007 7:33 PM | erazmus said... I posit that the author's gender has at least something to do with that.
It always has, and not just for sex in a novel but for writing in general.
Take a look at all the pseudonyms that Robert Silverberg has. A fair number of them are female. I doubt he just woke up one day and said 'i feel like being a girl today'. It's a lot more likely he said 'ok, would a male or female author sell this book better...what name would people like best...' |

| Posted By : warfitz45 - 5/31/2007 9:56 PM | In regard to men writer's getting more flack for sex, in general I would agree w/ this - GRR Martin springs to mind. However, Laurel K. Hamilton has received more grief in recent years over the amount of sex in her books. This is quite similar to the complaints that are targeted at GRRM. To me, I would dare say that it is a question of the amount of sex described that creates the greater challenge.
In my novel, I have one scene depicting the sexual act, but it is drawn out for the whole chapter, breaking it down and juxtaposing it w/ other scenes. I do expect some flack, especially from my family *GRIN*, but in this case - it really adds to the story. To me, if you are building a story with the scene, it is no different than violence or anything else that can be considered vile.
(but there is no question that in the USA, violence is not held w/ nearly the level of scrutiny).
I think most people only have a problem w/ sex when it is gratuitous, or is perceived as such. I have heard that both Martin & Hamilton scoff at such criticisms, defending their amount of sex in their books. Perhaps a writer's time would be better spent thinking of ways to make that scene more a part of the story, and therefore giving the reader less of a "tacked on" feeling????
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| Posted By : Anthony G Williams - 6/1/2007 1:58 AM |
warfitz45 said...
(but there is no question that in the USA, violence is not held w/ nearly the level of scrutiny).
Something which rather baffles me about western society in general and the USA in particular: that sex (which is, or ought to be, fun for both parties) is regarded as something to be hushed up, whereas violence (which is always nasty) is casually accepted in films and literature. It seems to be due to a warped interpretation of Christian morality.
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| Posted By : Scott M. Sandridge - 6/1/2007 2:43 AM | You just hit the nail on the head with that one.
Erm...no pun intended of course.
Anthony G Williams said...
warfitz45 said...
(but there is no question that in the USA, violence is not held w/ nearly the level of scrutiny).
Something which rather baffles me about western society in general and the USA in particular: that sex (which is, or ought to be, fun for both parties) is regarded as something to be hushed up, whereas violence (which is always nasty) is casually accepted in films and literature. It seems to be due to a warped interpretation of Christian morality.
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| Posted By : Nicholas - 6/1/2007 3:12 AM | |
I was thinking about this very topic a few weeks ago and wrote a blog about it. For anyone who cares to read it--and with apologies in advance for this being longer than the average thread post--here it is, "American Taboo: Sexuality in Art and Literature":
From 1990 to 1992 I attended Grand Canyon University , a private college run by the Southern Baptists. Even then, in my youthful Protestant zeal, one policy of the college struck me as somewhat irrational. No nudity was tolerated in any of the artwork displayed in the university’s art gallery. Now just think about that for a moment. Think about the great works of art—even the great works of religious art—that could not be shown. Michelangelo’s David, for example, would not be allowed in the hallowed halls of GCU.
I remember someone—Chesterton, it may have been—arguing that clothing makes us complete, that we are not whole without it. But this is circular reasoning and clearly an argument from cultural bias. With our upbringing, we do feel “naked” when we’re naked, but this is certainly not innate. Visit a family with young children. The kids will come running out of the bath naked as jaybirds, without a trace of self-consciousness. Then a parent yells “Get some clothes on!” And thus the taboo is instilled.
How ironic that misguided European missionaries even tried to impart this taboo across cultures, appalled by the lack of self-consciousness displayed by native tribes in Africa . But the disposition toward being clothed did not come from Eve biting an apple and then slapping fig leaves on herself—it came when our ancestors left those very tribes and headed north into colder climates.
I was fascinated to learn that the taboo in Japan is not against genitalia, but pubic hair. In all but the most hardcore manga and anime, even ones full of nudity, naked people are portrayed as being smooth as a newborn around their pelvic region. Mind you, we’re talking hair here. At least it’s just hair on one part of the body—Amish and Muslim women alike must cover the hair on their heads!
This all seems quite silly and arbitrary to us. But if we could step outside our own culture and see it objectively, I have no doubt we would find taboos in our society that are just as fraught with logical inconsistencies and outright nonsense.
Graphic portrayals of sex: a strong taboo—perhaps one of the last taboos—in our society, in which even a pretty tame depiction of sex can get a movie slapped with an NC-17 rating, while virtually any portrayal of violence is rated R. Violence is fine for children, as long as they’re accompanied by a guardian. When it comes to sex, we’re ascetics; when it comes to violence, we’re barbarians. We shun the temples of Bacchus in our march to the altar of Mars. (Although given the profits generated by porn in terms of both home-video and online viewing, we are also great big hypocrites.) I’ve seen a lot of recent horror films, and even my calloused sensibilities are sometimes shocked by the graphic portrayals of prolonged torture that are deemed healthier viewing than the act of making love.
Now, I am an artist, a storyteller, a poet. I will likely never decapitate a man with an axe or blow his brains out with a gun, but it is generally acceptable for me to write about it. Yet the puritans in my society tell me that something I experience regularly (if not always as regularly as I would’ve liked) is a taboo subject. Should be kept offstage. One whole aspect of my life should be off-limits? An aspect that, next to eating and sleeping, is the most universal of all experiences of the human race? The physical act that is, biologically speaking, the reason for my being here? And everyone else, for that matter, unless they were a test tube baby or Jesus. It is also, frankly—assuming we are healthy, rested, and fed—one of the aspects of life we find most enjoyable, that we most anticipate, that has all sorts of interesting repercussions—physically, emotionally, and, ultimately, reproductively, literally ushering in the next generation of our species to live and love and wonder what the heck they’re doing here. How it ever became taboo is a long and convoluted tale, but I think we should look to our European brethren who have come to their senses, and who are much more grown up about it, even as they enjoy and celebrate it unburdened by guilt. For them it’s not dirty; it’s not taboo. No wonder they consider us Americans so odd.
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| Posted By : Anthony G Williams - 6/1/2007 3:29 AM | | Nice one, Nicholas, I entirely agree.
I find it rather amusing - in a sick sort of way - that the purveyors of violent movies and TV programmes argue that people's behaviour cannot be influenced by anything they see on screen, at the same time that advertisers are spending millions to obtain a minute's worth of such coverage for their products
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| Posted By : BethS - 6/1/2007 10:01 AM |
xiaotien said...
does this mean that as a woman writer, you DO have sex scenes in your novel, beth?
Yep. You?
(Though I'd like to clarify. I don't write any scene that doesn't actually move the plot and develop character. So sex is there, but it has a purpose in the story.)
~Beth |

| Posted By : BethS - 6/1/2007 10:05 AM |
erazmus said...I dunno, I do my best writing with my brain lying down. Mike
Good point. To write effectively, we often have to get out of our own way.
And actually, you may be on to something in regards to society's expectations (or lack thereof) of male writers.
~Beth |

| Posted By : BethS - 6/1/2007 10:27 AM |
warfitz45 said... In regard to men writer's getting more flack for sex, in general I would agree w/ this - GRR Martin springs to mind. However, Laurel K. Hamilton has received more grief in recent years over the amount of sex in her books. This is quite similar to the complaints that are targeted at GRRM.
I confess, I don't get this. There's not very much sex in the GRRM books. What's there is, is short-lived and always relates to story and character. I don't understand how anyone could accuse him of overdoing the sex. If there's criticism to be leveled, it might be that sex in conjunction with love and affection is largely lacking, but then, the world he writes of is a brutal place and love is scarce.
Hamilton, OTOH (I base this on reports from people I know who've read all her books; I've avoided them myself) has taken to writing almost pure sex, with only the cobwebbiest of plots to give it cohesion.
Now one male author who doesn't shy away from writing sex is Jack Whyte. There aren't a lot of sex scenes in his books, but the ones I've read are memorable and verging on pornographic. Interestingly enough, though, when it comes to writing about sex between a man and woman in love, he modestly draws the curtain. But if it's just a lustful encounter, well, let's just say they take on a life of their own.
I don't know whether he gets criticized for this. I'll likely be seeing him this fall at the Surrey Writers Conference and I'll ask him then, if I remember.
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| Posted By : Nicholas - 6/1/2007 2:29 PM | In a nutshell, here's my whole problem with people criticizing writers like Laurel Hamilton or John Ringo or Jack Whyte or anyone else on this point. Hamilton fans (I'm not among that number, have no interest in reading her myself) read her because of her plots that hinge on sex between supernatural beings. People who aren't interested in that sort of thing don't have to read her. People who read her do like that sort of thing. THEREFORE, I must conclude that the people who criticize her for it are the people who don't like and don't read that sort of thing. What business do they have telling her what she should write and for whom? And if someone says, "I'd like for her to write something I approve of," my reply would be, "What--there aren't enough other authors for you to read? Why does Hamilton have to cater to your specific tastes?" The only way I could see such criticism as being valid would be if the publishers were marketing Hamilton's books as YA. www.myspace.com/Ropespor
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| Posted By : xiaotien - 6/1/2007 5:14 PM |
BethS said...
xiaotien said...
does this mean that as a woman writer, you DO have sex scenes in your novel, beth?
Yep. You?
(Though I'd like to clarify. I don't write any scene that doesn't actually move the plot and develop character. So sex is there, but it has a purpose in the story.)
~Beth
beth, the climax of my novel
is a sex scene.
yikes! and no, i'm not writing
romance. and yes, it's pivotal. cindy p.
a little sweet, a little sour.
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| Posted By : BethS - 6/1/2007 6:35 PM |
Nicholas said...In a nutshell, here's my whole problem with people criticizing writers like Laurel Hamilton or John Ringo or Jack Whyte or anyone else on this point. Hamilton fans (I'm not among that number, have no interest in reading her myself) read her because of her plots that hinge on sex between supernatural beings. People who aren't interested in that sort of thing don't have to read her. People who read her do like that sort of thing. THEREFORE, I must conclude that the people who criticize her for it are the people who don't like and don't read that sort of thing. What business do they have telling her what she should write and for whom? And if someone says, "I'd like for her to write something I approve of," my reply would be, "What--there aren't enough other authors for you to read? Why does Hamilton have to cater to your specific tastes?" The only way I could see such criticism as being valid would be if the publishers were marketing Hamilton's books as YA.
Hamilton can write anything she wants, so far as I'm concerned. But the particular beef in her case is, I gather, that she abandoned good storytelling in favor of sex scenes. Sort of like planting an orderly garden and then letting ivy smother it. Some (many?) of her readers who loved her Anita Blake series became disgusted when the sex starting taking over the plot. And that's a legitimate criticism, IMO. No, they don't have to read it, but they do have a right to be peeved when a favorite author becomes more entranced with eroticism than plot and character.
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| Posted By : BethS - 6/1/2007 6:37 PM |
beth, the climax of my novel
is a sex scene.
yikes! and no, i'm not writing
romance. and yes, it's pivotal.
Well, bring it on. Sounds interesting.
~Beth |

| Posted By : nathan - 6/1/2007 8:03 PM |
BethS said...
Some (many?) of her readers who loved her Anita Blake series became disgusted when the sex starting taking over the plot. And that's a legitimate criticism, IMO. No, they don't have to read it, but they do have a right to be peeved when a favorite author becomes more entranced with eroticism than plot and character.
~Beth This is exactly what happened to me, lol. I read the first 4-5 books/novellas way back in the beginning. I was more excited about Anita Blake then I had been about ANYTHING I had read in a long, long time. I stood right up the first time she put were-rats in a plot. Her books were perfect in my opinion a perfect blending of harboiled detective story meeting supernatural adventure meeting very well done psychological profile of the main character.
Now in the first book(s) Anita was a virgin but hey she was being chased by a vampire and in a post-Ann Rice world I knew what that meant but damn the unfolding drama of her mysteries rocked along with some of her CSI scenes, she did everything right.
Then I lost track of her for a couple of years. Don't know why. Then I kept hearing this Laura Hamiliton name over and over realized it was her and was shocked that the rest of the reading world had finally woken up and recognized great stories (mainly ones I like  ) but damn was I in for a shock.
I read two erotica masterpieces where the supernatural mystery danger adventure took a way way way backseat to were-leopard orgies and hot undead sex.
I miss Anita Blake but have to admit, when I first loved her no one knew who L H was. Now that she's a bestseller I'm bored by what it took her to sell so many copies.
I mean, I'd rather read about a good zombie gunfight than be in one but the maximum for sex scenes tends to be the reverse... VIEW IMAGE"Writing the wet dreams of teenage boys" - Lindsey Llyod, Tangent Reviews
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| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 6/1/2007 9:06 PM | Nicholas said... We shun the temples of Bacchus in our march to the altar of Mars.
Love the line, Nick. I don't know if it's yours (its sounds good enough to be historical ) but I plan on remembering it. ~~~~~~~~~~ Jason M. Waltz Fantasy Editor Staffs & Starships Magazine ~~~~~~~~~~ Ever waltz with the Devil? Or devil with a Waltz? Visit von Darkmoor's thoughts to find out (and read a review or two). |

| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 6/1/2007 9:15 PM | BethS said... I confess, I don't get this. There's not very much sex in the GRRM books. What's there is, is short-lived and always relates to story and character. I don't understand how anyone could accuse him of overdoing the sex. If there's criticism to be leveled, it might be that sex in conjunction with love and affection is largely lacking, but then, the world he writes of is a brutal place and love is scarce.
Beth, I agree with you in regards to the first 3 books of ASoIaF, and with your statement that GRRM's sex is a fitting reflection of his world. Nothing in books 1-3 stood out as out-of-the-ordinary or too much for me. Then along came A Feast for Crows in which he had so many characters whipping and sticking it just any ol' place so often that I was quite preturbed due to the fact I believe he could have wrote the same novel and included the still-awaited A Dance of Dragons (or whatever it will be called) if he had managed his prose better. I feel he sacrificed the saga for the sake of lots of gratuitous sex and sacrificed the originally-intended novel he was having a difficult time completing for the sake of fan & publisher appeasement.
I still plan to read his next books and finish the series; for me, books 1-3 are some of the best fantasy novels I've read. I'm just very glad book 4 wasn't the first one. ~~~~~~~~~~ Jason M. Waltz Fantasy Editor Staffs & Starships Magazine ~~~~~~~~~~ Ever waltz with the Devil? Or devil with a Waltz? Visit von Darkmoor's thoughts to find out (and read a review or two). |

| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 6/1/2007 9:17 PM | xiaotien said... beth, the climax of my novel
is a sex scene.
So . . . your climax is a climax?! . . . . ohhhhhhh, I get it.  ~~~~~~~~~~ Jason M. Waltz Fantasy Editor Staffs & Starships Magazine ~~~~~~~~~~ Ever waltz with the Devil? Or devil with a Waltz? Visit von Darkmoor's thoughts to find out (and read a review or two). |

| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 6/1/2007 9:21 PM | and Nathan, there's been so many people congratulating you for your tongue (insert gratuitous comment here) in cheek paragraph that I figured you didn't need any further encouragement.
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| Posted By : crystalwizard - 6/1/2007 9:55 PM | nathan said...
I mean, I'd rather read about a good zombie gunfight than be in one but the maximum for sex scenes tends to be the reverse...
Nathan...would that possibly be a hint about something in an upcoming Bolan book you've got cooking? Never meddle in the affairs of a wizard unless you are soggy and hard to light!
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| Posted By : Nicholas - 6/2/2007 4:15 AM |
Jason said...
Nicholas said... We shun the temples of Bacchus in our march to the altar of Mars. Love the line, Nick. I don't know if it's yours (its sounds good enough to be historical )
Jason, I'll take credit where credit's due. www.myspace.com/Ropespor
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| Posted By : erazmus - 6/2/2007 4:46 AM | So is there a different standard for men writers and women writers?
It just seems to me that when a man writes too much sex, he's peddeling pornography and when a women does it, she's championing eroticism.
A bit of perspective. I sit on the pajama panels at Mile Hi Con most years. Those are usually having to do with Sex in fantasy, erotic writing on the net etc. I'm on them because I give good panel, and my first pro sale was about a web-cam girl. Some of my copanelist write things that make me blush. Some write things I can't even work out without a picture book. All of the really hard core porn/ porn horror panelist are women.
I can't imagine writing a story centering around images like these gals work. I'd never hear the end of it. My byline is not welcome at most of the places they publish, because I'm male and straight. (or so is infered from the wife and three kids, how do they really know?) I'm not sweating the loss of potential markets, that kind of fiction generally pays even less than what I sell now, but I've _seen_ the men getting a hard time for writing things that would pass for mild amoung the ladies on the panel. A lot of that is in the nature of the audience-- we get hard core feminist who come every year to stridently demand all men bow to what ever goal they are currently pushing, while I've never caught a mysoginist ranting that women shouldn't pretend they can write books and go back into the kitchen. (I'm not saying such dinosaurs don't exist, just that they haven't gotten our Con's address yet.) You hear a lot about the religous rights disapproval(of everything), most second hand, we've never had a born-again preacher come rail at us in person yet, but I've bantered with disapproving feminist at more than one panel. For some of them, I'm not wrong writing about sex, I'm just wrong for having a penis. oh well, there are some lengths I won't go to to please an audience.
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| Posted By : BethS - 6/2/2007 9:18 AM |
Howard von Darkmoor said...
Then along came A Feast for Crows in which he had so many characters whipping and sticking it just any ol' place so often that I was quite preturbed due to the fact I believe he could have wrote the same novel and included the still-awaited A Dance of Dragons (or whatever it will be called) if he had managed his prose better. Really??? I mean, I read that book and don't even remember any sex scenes. But then, I don't remember anything much that happened in that volume. But I think I would have noticed a lot of sex...
I feel he sacrificed the saga for the sake of lots of gratuitous sex and sacrificed the originally-intended novel he was having a difficult time completing for the sake of fan & publisher appeasement.
If most of his fans are like me, they'd have preferred the two books to be properly integrated into one volume and published that way, no matter how long it turned out to be. But the publisher told him he couldn't publish another half-million k (or more) book and he had to find a way to make it smaller. So he did, and the only choice he had about it was the way he picked to do it.
Funny about the sex, though. I really don't remember...
~Beth
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| Posted By : BethS - 6/2/2007 9:21 AM |
erazmus said...So is there a different standard for men writers and women writers? Mike
Yeah, probably. It's unfortunate, but I think it happens.
~Beth |

| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 6/2/2007 2:32 PM | erazmus said... So is there a different standard for men writers and women writers? . . .
I sit on the pajama panels at Mile Hi Con most years. Those are usually having to do with Sex . . . I'm on them because I give good . . .
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| Posted By : von Darkmoor - 6/2/2007 2:58 PM | BethS said... Funny about the sex, though. I really don't remember... ~Beth
A large section of the book was devoted to pages that went something like this:
page (first locale) "I want sex with you." page (second locale) - some action/commentary/intrigue page (first locale) "I'll give you sex if you . . ." page (third locale) - some commentary/intrigue, including the beginning of another sex-related subplot page (first locale) "Close the door on your way out after our sex." page (second locale) - some more action/commentary/intrigue page (first locale) "Damn, did I have sex with -. Why/I remember when/what have I done/or some such" page (fourth locale) - new sexual scene starting page (third locale) "Can we have sex?"
Not one of those encounters was even remotely romantic - all were for barter or to exert authority, and each was so repetitive they only needed to replace the names of the characters involved.
As this thread has evidenced, this pattern is pretty much the way men think already. So, for me at least, that book was largely a waste of my time. I want something more to read about than a version of my daily existence. In my opinion, I learned 2 things I consider integral to the overall plot and experienced some pretty impressive changes in one or two key characters near the end of the novel. It is solely for those reasons that I still recommend the book, but ONLY to ASoIaF readers so that they may learn the few things it has to offer.
I also got to meet GRRM in Madison, listen to him speak and talk to him myself. So when all is said and done, I firmly believe he could have produced a complete novel not split asunder that still delivered those important components if he had been willing to remove both the countless conversations/events that revolved around sex or sexual acts and the 'treading water' traveling that many of the characters in Feast do.
I've said my last on this, as it's water way under the bridge and we've both other things to do. At least we somewhat agree that the book was not very memorable.  ~~~~~~~~~~ Jason M. Waltz Fantasy Editor Staffs & Starships Magazine ~~~~~~~~~~ Ever waltz with the Devil? Or devil with a Waltz? Visit von Darkmoor's thoughts to find out (and read a review or two). |

| Posted By : BethS - 6/2/2007 8:32 PM |
Howard von Darkmoor said...
At least we somewhat agree that the book was not very memorable.
It's not my favorite of his, that's for sure. But it wasn't awful either. When it's time Dance with Dragons to come out, I'll reread it and see if it works better second time around.
And also to watch for those sneaky little sex scenes I apparently didn't notice.
~Beth |

| Posted By : WRJames - 6/10/2007 1:44 AM | | Well, as a writer of "erotic" science fiction I've certainly found this thread interesting and amusing. It's been a very long time since I was 20, but I certainly remember my freshman year of college as being one of sexual obsession (my roommate's girlfriend kept a diary where she recorded the number of times they had sex each day -- record was seven and a half). After that, up to the time of my marriage a few years later, I think that romantic complications began to supercede pure sexual thoughts -- and that's true for the characters in my novels as well.
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| Posted By : xiaotien - 6/10/2007 1:50 AM | how do you have sex half a time? cindy p.
a little sweet, a little sour.
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| Posted By : Jeff Stehman - 6/10/2007 2:18 AM | One of them slept through it? --Jeff Stehman |

| Posted By : erazmus - 6/10/2007 6:41 AM | xiaotien said... how do you have sex half a time? I'd guess that you'd either; start something you couldn't finish (like havig half a desert) or Start something that lapped the calender, the second half going on tomorrows count or One has sex without the other (I grew up during the sexual revolution, in Califoria, so sue me . . .) Mike Michael D. Turner "Psyched Up" in _Turn the other Chick_-ed. E. Friesner-Baen books www.baen.com "Dutchman Rescue"in Continuum SF #6 www.continuumsciencefiction.com/orders.htm
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| Posted By : WRJames - 6/10/2007 9:32 AM |
xiaotien said...how do you have sex half a time?
After seven? Use your imagination. |

| Posted By : xiaotien - 6/10/2007 11:12 PM |
WRJames said...
xiaotien said...how do you have sex half a time?
After seven? Use your imagination. my imagination feels tired and chaffed.
cindy p.
a little sweet, a little sour.
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| Posted By : WRJames - 6/11/2007 12:21 AM |
xiaotien said...
WRJames said...
xiaotien said...how do you have sex half a time?
After seven? Use your imagination. my imagination feels tired and chaffed.
Remember -- this was first year in college. Actually, it might have been six and a half. |

| Posted By : erazmus - 6/11/2007 12:38 AM | Leave it to college students to make an endurance event out of sex.
But what is a good, middle-of-the-road approach to sex in a novel? I've read books with too much sex, no sex and enough sex, but it seems that enough for me is too much for some, and too much for me isn't enough for others. Is there a range for "just right"? Allowing that sex isn't driving the plot, when it does you naturally enough will have a lot of sex in that book.
Mike Michael D. Turner "Psyched Up" in _Turn the other Chick_-ed. E. Friesner-Baen books www.baen.com "Dutchman Rescue"in Continuum SF #6 www.continuumsciencefiction.com/orders.htm
"An Incident at Black Tongue Tavern" in _Bash Down the Door and Slice Open the Badguy_ from Fantasist Enterprises: www.fantasistent.com/books/anthologies/BASH.php www.fantasistent.com/books/anthologies/BASH.php |

| Posted By : WRJames - 6/11/2007 1:24 AM |
erazmus said...Leave it to college students to make an endurance event out of sex. But what is a good, middle-of-the-road approach to sex in a novel? I've read books with too much sex, no sex and enough sex, but it seems that enough for me is too much for some, and too much for me isn't enough for others. Is there a range for "just right"? Allowing that sex isn't driving the plot, when it does you naturally enough will have a lot of sex in that book. Mike
In my case, I didn't, in the beginning, set out to write an "erotic" novel. But probably my own tastes in what I like to read drove me that direction. Too many novels have characters that aren't believable because they never need to use the bathroom, never have sex, etc. Maybe you would not be interested in reading about details like that, but to me it's part of describing a total person. My books on Mobipocket
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| Posted By : xiaotien - 6/11/2007 1:52 AM | erazmus said... Or . . . you started something that you thought was sex, but it turned out you were wrong. Mike
this could make for good speculative fiction? haha! |
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